Tantrika approach of Relationship issues!! Whats healthy? Whats not??

Tantrika approach of Relationship issues!! Whats healthy? Whats not??.

Tantrika approach of Relationship issues!! Whats healthy? Whats not??

We all know that understanding and taming the beast called Relationships could be often challenging for many of us. And quite frankly it’s the rare couple that doesn’t run into a few bumps in the road. If you recognize ahead of time, though, what those relationship problems might be, you’ll have a much better chance of getting past them.

Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the bumps and keep their love life going. Here are some comparisons highlighting the difference between healthy and unhealthy boundaries we create in our mind.

Healthy: Accepting transitions and endings. Unhealthy: Being unable to change, let go and move on.

Healthy: Being your own person. Unhealthy: Feeling incomplete without the other person.

Healthy: Accepting responsibility for your own happiness. Unhealthy: Relying on others (especially your partner) to make you happy.

Healthy: Achieving intimacy without the use of substances. Unhealthy: Using substances to reduce your inhibitions and achieve a false sense of intimacy.

Healthy: Being able to balance separateness and togetherness. Unhealthy: Wanting either too much or too little togetherness.

Healthy: Having meaningful friendships outside the partnership. Unhealthy: Being unable to build and maintain close friendships with others.

Healthy: Being able to see and focus your partner’s and, on your own,  good points. Unhealthy: Always focusing on your partner’s flaws and worst qualities only.

Healthy: Being loyal and committed to your partner. Unhealthy: Displaying jealousy and relationship addiction; being uncommitted to your partner.

Healthy: Communicating in a way that is open, real and connecting. Unhealthy: Playing games; being manipulative; not being willing to listen in a non-defensive way.

Healthy: Being open and asking for what you want, in a clear and unambiguous way. Unhealthy: Being unable to ask for what you want and denying yourself from the possibility even.

Healthy: Respecting and accepting the ways in which you and your partner are different. Unhealthy: Blaming and criticizing your partner for having different traits and qualities from you.

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What your body tells you about your Emotional State?

What your body tells you about your Emotional State?

Biologists are now starting to come to the same conclusion that yogis have been for centuries. That it’s not our DNA and cells that control our health, but our emotions. Negativity brings down your immune system, and vice versa.

Amazing informative article. Check this out:

Our Physical Bodies Alert Us to Emotional States

Maybe it seems strange that we should look at our bodies for evidence of an emotion, after all, don’t we just feel something like anger, pain, frustration, fear, guilt, etc. when it happens? We don’t need to look at the body to understand an emotion, or do we? It’s not always that simple. Our emotions are intertwined with how we get our needs met from a very young age, so, if you weren’t ever allowed to be ‘angry’ even in situations where this would be a natural emotion, then instead of that anger being felt and expressed, and properly released, it becomes waylaid by the conscious mind. Instead, it is seen as ‘wrong’ and then pushed down into the subconscious mind so that you can ‘deal with it later.’

We can do this temporarily quite well, such as when we learn to hold our tongue when having a disagreement, and due to respect or love, or societal pressures, we choose to communicate our feelings at a later time, when they feel less charged. The problem is that when we push emotions down too long, the subconscious mind will start saying ‘hey, you’ve got some stuff to deal with down here.’

Neuropeptides Lead the Game

Everytime you think a thought there is probably emotion attached to it. Perhaps it is positive, perhaps negative, but rarely, is it neutral. With every charged thought you think, miniscule neuropeptides, or chemical proteins trigger a specific physiological response to try to keep your overall system in homeostatis. Examples of neuropeptides are endorphins like the ones released when you have sex or go for a jog, and other hormones, like oxytocin, the natural ‘love’ drug, adrenaline, the natural drug of excitement and fear, cortisol, the hormone of stress, and so on. There are dozens of these neuropeptides being released at any given moment.

Whatever your most consistent emotional state is, then, that is also what chemical cocktail being released into your body, and thereby shapes your physical features. The more prolonged the emotional state is experienced, the more profound the changes can be visually

“Never get angry for anger poisons your system.” – Paramahansa Yogananda

http://themindunleashed.org/2014/05/body-tells-emotional-state.html

We all are born Yogis as a baby, don’t you remember?

Babies are the only beings (other than liberated souls) that are in perfect harmony with themselves regardless of the place, time and company they are in. They could be anywhere, with anybody and don’t care who is watching. They simply perform Yoga asanas (postures) to support their physical and mental development.
Not only that, their heart is pure, they don’t judge or discriminate people because of their earthly wealth. Their needs are simple.

Many great yoga masters from India said “children are born yogis”. You can simply watch how children perform different asanas at different stages of their development. For instance, when they are learning to walk, they do the cat stretch to strengthen their spines or perform the Pavanamuktasan to boost digestion.
As children, we are born yogis and perform yoga naturally, then why do we forget the practice and lose flexibility and become judgmental, ignorant and egoistic as we grow up?

“The main reason is that their interactions with their surrounding environment, mainly parents, teachers and society teaching earning cunning ways to earn monetary wealth over being good hearted, have a bigger influence on them. So they don’t get to interact much with nature. Secondly, the pace of life is different these days and parents don’t really encourage their kids to do yoga.
Thirdly, the ego starts developing and does not allow the child to be natural anymore as an adult” .

According to many yogis & rishi munis yoga itself can never be forgotten because it is as natural as heart beat or sunrise. “There is an innate intelligence that knows what postures are good for the body. The ancient rishis discovered this in their meditation. So yoga postures are easy to learn, they manifest”.

“When we observe children from all over the world, whether they are from America, Africa, India or Latin America, they perform similar yoga postures.” Once children grow into adulthood, these postures need to be consciously and regularly practiced to achieve the goal. “As we grow up, our awareness naturally matures and these postures begin to have a deeper and more profound impact in our spiritual and mental body. When body and mind develops, the impact of the yoga poses also changes. For example, children can put their big toes in their mouth, but they cannot keep their attention at one point. By practicing yoga postures and guided meditation, we can get the best of both worlds: maintain the suppleness of young body/youth and increase the awareness of a mature mind.